# Missing the Point By:: [[Brian Heath]] 2024-10-01 I regularly bring up contradictions and process issues with organizational leaders. Nearly all agree with these issues to some degree. Rarely does someone disagree. However, as the conversation continues, I've learned that these leaders recognize the problem but seldom see it within themselves or their organization. Instead, they think I'm discussing some meta-organizational problem or another team. If I'm talking to you, an organizational leader, about an organizational issue, I'm talking about you and your organization. I'm not talking about your competitor or colleague or just rambling on about organizational philosophy. I'm talking about you. For many, this may seem bold, but if one does not directly come out and say it, almost everyone assumes you are talking about someone or something else. This is especially true if one has built a good enough relationship with the person. It's an odd quirk that we can recognize the problems we cause or are living with within others but not ourselves, even when a trustworthy source points it out. Often, I can even go so far as to highlight a specific example of the problem occurring on one's team, and they will still think that I'm not talking explicitly about them and their leadership. I've gone for years highlighting a problem directly with someone, for them to do nothing and only see the problem in others. At this point, one should ask whether my sample size is large enough, whether I am a weird use case, or whether I am lying or misremembering the situation. My sample size is decently large enough. I am as weird as anyone else and have no reason to lie, but I doubt my reality is objective. From my limited experience, this is a recurring theme backed by ancient wisdom and historical accounts. Doubt is a choice. Experience is subjective. Missing the point is all too human. #### Related Items [[Contradiction]] [[Reflection]] [[Cognitive Biases]] [[Subjective]] [[Wisdom]] [[Organization]] [[The Human Condition]]