# Get It Together By:: [[Brian Heath]] 2022-11-25 Many people don't "get it," but does that matter if they trust you? They may not completely understand the words you say at first, but if they trust you, they will eventually be able to anticipate and reflect your actions. This might be closer to "getting it" than anything else. Intellectually explaining your position so others get it works in some circles, but most people won't listen, be prepared to listen, or understand. Beliefs are closer to feelings and emotions than formal definitions and logical implications, and the parts of the brain that deal with emotions do not speak English. Our brains may not be able to synthesize these beliefs into any coherent and shared language that reflects our emotional response to the human condition we find ourselves. Thus, it may take years of intense study to fully "get it" intellectually. Compare this to how quickly you can establish a baseline trust with someone. Over time this trust can develop beyond social contract transactions and into the development of a shared understanding. You ask them for advice, share a cup of coffee, strategize over a beer, and respect each other. At this point, you both "get it," even if you don't "get it" in any formal sense of the word. This doesn't mean that you necessarily join each other's cult, but that you can now move forward with the person towards solving something greater. "Getting it" happens together and not via unidirectional word vomit hurled at each other. #### Related Items [[Trust]] [[Truth]] [[Beliefs]] [[Together]] [[Emotions]] [[Language]]